Why Most People Resist Change

People usually contact me because they want to change something.

They either want to change personally as a leader or to change the way things are done in their ministry. A driving motivation behind change is transformation. We want to be different, better and more effective; and we want to see people’s lives changed around us.

I find it very interesting how much we resist change.

When I ask clients (who are paying me to help them change) to do something different which they have been doing a certain way for a long time, they almost always fight me about it, sometimes even to the point of getting angry at my suggestion. In other words, they resist change.

I remember talking to a pastor who wanted to make some sweeping changes in how the church reached out to the community. I made three initial recommendations to him. The first had to do with the delivery of his Sunday morning messages (always a very sensitive topic for pastors.) The second was regarding the structure of the staff. And the third was related to how the church kept track of guest information. In each case, he told me, in no uncertain terms, that he “wasn’t ready to do that yet.” After a while I realized that he wanted to see changes happen, but he wasn’t willing to change himself. It took a while to help him shift his thinking.

Even when we know WHAT we should do different, we tend to keep doing it the old way.

This is intriguing for me. I struggle changing certain personal behaviors in my life (like how I eat,) and even how I view myself (personal insecurities.) In the same way, leaders and organizations struggle making the necessary changes to grow and make a bigger difference in their communities – even when they know what they should be doing.

This morning, I ran across this 8 minute video. I almost didn’t watch it. I’m so glad I did. Check it out.

Change is hard, especially when it means changing behaviors and mindsets that are deeply rooted in our psyche.

Whether it’s about our self-worth, how we see God or how we think He sees us, how we eat, talk or lead – if it’s something we’ve been doing the same way for a long time, it’s going to take work and effort to begin doing it differently.


Food for Thought – this would be a great video to share on a Sunday morning while addressing life change from the pulpit. Just an idea!


An invitation to get some help.


Proverbs 19:20 says, “Listen to advice and accept instruction, and in the end you will be wise.”

I’d like to invite you to consider starting a conversation with me about helping you or your organization change. Driving change has been a part of what I do as a leader my entire adult life. Every situation is different and will require a different strategy – but I am confident you can change. Let me help you grow and make a greater impact with those around you!

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